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humanodon  ·  4081 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Blurring the Lines of Feminism: A Criticism of the Criticism of “Blurred Lines”

I liked that take on the situation, but for me it still poses a problem. I'm super down for equality, but what these kinds of discussions communicate to me, is that the only way for people to get along is to be polite and formal with each other, according to arbitrary standards. The problem with being polite all the time is that it does not encourage people to get to know each other beyond mere formality and in some ways makes us less human to each other, which is exactly opposite of what is trying to be achieved.

Of course, the issue is really one of respect, not politeness, but there's no way to force people to be respectful unless it's at the point of a knife or a lawsuit and then it's not genuine. I'm not saying I have a solution in mind or anything, but I certainly don't think that everyone walking on eggshells is going to solve anything other than a deficit of resentment (which does not exist).