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zebra2  ·  4161 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Prepare To Be Even More Disappointed by 'Bang with Friends' | Motherboard

Really, I see this article is trying to make a big stink out of nothing. The author approaches them (and presents them) with these forced notions of being sexist, anti-lgbt perverts and asks pointed questions as such. But really, the responses I'm reading mostly seem pretty fair.

Seriously though, some of these questions are super slanty:

    When I log on, I'm only able to see males from my friends list. Why the heteronormative standard?

    *
To be honest, we built this in two hours and never expected it to take off. We built the most basic version we could to keep it simple and get to the result of getting people bangin buddies! We are working on expanding it to help everyone.*

That seems like a totally fair response but the article directly proceeding it presents it like they would be totally against it by design.

    As a woman, I find the homepage image you guys use on your site quite disturbing. An inert, faceless woman on a bed with a dress pulled up over her head doesn't exactly scream "equality for the sexes." Why did you choose a woman and not a man?

I love the last line here. Does the author think that substituting the woman for a man would mean equality for the sexes? Or is it really just that poorly presented? Either way, female sexuality has long been the symbol for advertising sexuality. It's a product of society; no way would I think it's fair to try and dump that on these three guys.

I suspect the author wanted this to be some gotcha moment:

    So do you guys usually cruise Facebook and think to yourself I would fuck this girl. I wonder if she'd fuck me? 'cause that's what it would seem like your thing does?

    *Everyone has some friends that they would throw the bone to. We're no different.*

Really, how dishonest is it to pretend that no one evaluates anyone in there social circle as a potential partner? Is this supposed to be a bad thing?

Really, the only replies I take issue with are:

    How do you think people will feel about having their image used as a sexual object without their consent or even knowledge?

    *Flattered? This happens all of the time offline and online via Facebook. We're all adults here. Let's be honest about our sexuality!*

Which I don't is the right response. Or rather, the question is wrong. I'm not familiar with BWF but I'm under the impression that you're not supposed to be using anyone's image as a "sexual object", as in you're not perusing the app and jerking off to pictures. You're just being exposed to the same images that are already available to you on Facebook under a pretense that is (possibly not at all) different from what you browse Facebook for anyways.

Really, the worst answer here is:

    Have you ever jerked off to someone's Facebook profile?

    *Best question yet! Not yet, but not ruling it out.*