It's okay to be picky. Just don't let your pickiness become "artificial structures devised not beacuse you have a reason for them, but because you are afraid of dating, and so use fake "standards" in order to ensure everyone who approaches you is immediately ineligible."

I'm not sure how it looks from the outside, but I can say that I've dated quite a few girls who didn't fall into the "ideal female" category in the magazine of my own fantasies. Come to think about it, I've even dated girls that have shattered fantasies for me. I used to think that dating a girl who couldn't keep her hands off me would be great . . . and it was, for a surprisingly short time. After that, it got to be kind of a pain.

Partner In Crime is a good way of putting it. I have plenty of guy friends who fit that description, but for friends I'm not always certain it's a good thing. For example, I have a good friend like that and sometimes we'd just feed off each other until we'd created a perfect storm of What Not To Do. Live and learn.