Disclosure should come at one's own pace. If you intrude upon someone's privacy and find out something they haven't told you and disclose that information to them, you steal their opportunity to tell you on their own time and in their own terms. And if it's an important thing and if you're been prying in their private documents or social media or whatever, you're going to break a trust that may not ever recover.

Maybe sometimes it's warranted - like the cheating spouse who gets found out. But I think there are a lot of very personal experiences that someone can just not be ready to share yet, and when you pry to find out that information you totally rip from them the ability to tell you when they are comfortable with what's happened.

I routinely take a week or more to socialize to people in my life when my significant other and I have broken up. (Historically, anyway.)

I resent the idea that I am obligated to tell anyone anything. I tell someone something because I want them to know. No one is privileged to any knowledge of my life.

(If I were married the situation would be different. When you enter into certain bonds and create a life together I think you kind of have to share certain things, especially as they impact your life together.) (This is all theoretical, this bit down here.)