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- that comment is basically the crux behind my maxim. I understand booking things ahead of time. But if a guy is too busy to hang out for, say, an entire month, either he is constantly scheduled to the gills and probably doesn't have time for a relationship, or he is using busy as an excuse. When genuinely interested, even with a tight schedule, people can find ways to make a little time here or there. You can bring dates to social gatherings, you know. 2) But what my maxim isn't supposed to encourage is "make ALL the time for me." Of course you have a life and events and you shouldn't cancel on those to hang out with a chick. No chick should act like she has the right to all your time. The law actually works even if someone is just legitimately that busy; if one person doesn't like that level of busyness, and the other wants to keep the schedule up, it's an indicator that maybe some basic elements (time together/apart) don't line up. If someone is so busy it makes you feel neglected or question their attachment, maybe you need someone who is more available than that person is going to be. "Not that I wouldn't free time up"