kb - I truly believe you have that wrong.

As is your prerogative. Long have I been pissing off the Internet with my dating advice. You can disagree all day without hurting my feelings one iota.

You see her decision as showing power, when it is actually showing fear.

Doesn't matter which is which. Fact of the matter is, her decision is showing a lack of interest. If you can pretend that's by choice, you win. If you telegraph that it's by inhibition, you lose.

She is deciding not to text out of fear that she will APPEAR to like the other person more that the other person likes her.

And a confident person, as opposed to a shy person, would know that she will appear however she chooses to appear.

She's afraid she will be disappointed.

So? Everyone is afraid of disappointment. The point being: sexual dynamics hold that the man is the one who must test his disappointment more often than not.

However, if the other person texts first, she knows that she is desired and there is less to risk.

See previous statement about 3-day rule.

You don't know this yet, because you are not a girl (yet).

How many girls have you dated?

How many girls have you slept with?

How many girls have you entered relationships with?

How many girls have you had relationship-ending fights with?

It's patently irresponsible and hostile to wall off knowledge about sexual dynamics behind a wall of vaginas. I don't know you. That much is for sure. I don't know anybody specific to this discussion. But if we're talking hypotheticals, I'll betcha I've dated a lot more girls than you have. Not sure why you'd assume I wasn't paying attention to any of them.

This has not been established. Maybe they do, maybe they don't.

If they don't it doesn't matter. Now we aren't talking about a relationship, we're talking about a false start.

If she knew for sure that the other person desired her, texting would not be an issue.

You couldn't be more wrong. If she knows for sure that the other person desired her, and texted him immediately, the power dynamic would change.

These games continue well past the point where the two people in question have slept together. I used to fuck on the first date all. the time and boy howdy - the games get no simpler until you've settled into a relationship. That, more than anything, is the point of a relationship - so you don't have to go through courtship bullshit unless you want to.

How do you know that for sure? Wait until they text first.

I think it's funny that the crux of your argument is that the woman shouldn't be required to act first because it's a "fear" issue instead of a "power" issue without recognizing that the person who actually has to do something is the one without power, regardless of the motivation.