This must be my lousy writing but I do understand what you're saying and I wasn't trying to disagree or define trust otherwise. These are examples by which I understand trust, so I absolutely agree; I suppose I was really just expressing my own discomfort with building trust where it feels more like a forgery, or a synthesis, than a cooperative effort. Perhaps I was forcing it where it isn't meant to be, perhaps I'm not "doing it right" or something.. perhaps I'm not giving it enough time. Anyway I very much appreciate your explanation so thanks, just making clear that we're on the same page in understanding, not so much execution.saying you are going to show up, and then showing up
saying you are going to phone/write, and then doing it
making a deal to share a particular responsibility and then doing your part
saying you will keep a secret and then keeping it