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am_Unition  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Amazon Is Killing My Sex Life

    Also, now that I'm not looking for anything at all, I'm getting hit on. I DO NOT GET HIT ON. I KNOW IT'S AN OLD, OVER USED TROPE, BUT WHERE WERE THESE GIRLS WHEN I WAS SINGLE?

As an ineligible bachelor, I have discussed this in detail with my friends, and I've come to three independent (but not mutually exclusive) explanations. Note: feel free to expand/condemn any or all of these.

1. People are interested in others that are already in a relationship, as this demonstrates attractiveness and eligibility for further relationships.

2. Because of the fact that you (presumably) aren't vested in sexually-motivated interactions with others, you subconsciously "play it cool", coming off as genuine and thus someone to be desired.

3. Some people just want to fuck up a good thing.

There's other contributing factors to be sure (post them in response, Hubski!), but these are some of the most significant that I've seen in action.