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mknod  ·  3734 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Steps to Raise Your Self-Esteem

Hey Lil,

Thank you very much for this list. I sometimes feel bad that I don't interact with you very much here, because you are so cool and thoughtful, and come up with great posts like this.

So a little story:

I was hanging out the other day and a friend said I was "cool". I went with my immediate response which is to say I said: "No I'm really not"

She stopped me and said "No don't do that, I'm not going to do that any more either"

We had this moment where we realized that we were putting ourselves down for no reason. Literally no reason whatsoever.

We both think each other are cool and we should both be able to express and enjoy that. We realized that what we thought was a safety net was really our dumb brains doing dumb brain stuff.

So number 5 is a big one and really has changed my outlook on myself in only a couple of weeks. Being mindful of self-talk can be a very positive experience.