So, feminism I can see as a dealbreaker, because that's a human rights and equality issue. I don't think anyone need be educated on the particulars of various aspects of academic feminist theory to appreciate the fact that we should all be equals in society. As for the other "issues", who gives a shit? They're hot button political controversies that shouldn't get in the way of getting along with someone. Some of my best friends are conservatives. It's good to be close with people who don't agree with you, because, provided they're intelligent and engaged, you can have really good conversations with them. Anyway, that's beside the point. One's humanity doesn't begin or end with how they feel about the reigning distraction of the day. Edit: My point is that you shouldn't deny yourself potential happiness based on arbitrary positions about arbitrary issues. I'm rooting for you; not telling you you're wrong, if that isn't clear.