Perhaps this question is best saved for a post of it's own, but I'll ask here first to see if anything worthwhile comes of it. I hope this makes sense. Lil, in your opinion, is there anything we can do to avoid "contributing to [our] own sadness". I've been talking and thinking a lot about unrealistic expectations (in regards to new relationships, mostly) and I feel that there are some specific, minor things we can do to avoid specific minor circumstances. But overall, what things can people do to avoid this self-inflicted sadness or, at the very least, turn it into something somewhat positive? Is it simply a matter of reflecting on ourselves, our situation, and our surroundings to be more aware the next time around and try to inspire change in ourselves?