Our stories start out similar, then diverge drastically. Going to Maui on Thanksgiving (even that was a compromise to my family; I wanted Koh Samui or maybe even the Maldives--somewhere nobody would follow). 15 friends and family are joining us. Maui isn't cheap, but, hey, 15 people isn't that many. Even at $200 a plate, you're not too deep. Then comes the fun part. We said, "Hey, we'll have a party sometime after we come back." Once our moms got hold of that idea it was a completely transformed into a fucking nightmare regular old straight up wedding reception, thus completely and utterly ruining the whole idea behind going to a far off place where only the loyalists would attend. So, while you're technically right that I can get out of this bullshit and only lose my $1000 deposit, I'd never live it down. It's written in goddam blood. There are many times that I'm appreciative that I have a large, close-knit and supportive family. This is a rare exception.