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_refugee_  ·  3581 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: "You care too much about what other people think."

I have been told I care too much about people's opinions by no less than three people in the past few months.

I find this ironic because, uh...most people don't seem to think I have this problem. I find it doubly ironic because each person who has told me I cared too much about other people's opinions was trying to make me care about his opinion. Triply ironic because if you tell me I care too much about other people's opinions and then I'm like "OH GOD YOU'RE RIGHT I NEED TO MAKE A CHANGE!" ... aren't I actually just proving you true?

I think what may be happening is some people see my "deep interest in the hilarious/nonsensical/stupid/complexities of human interaction" aka yes, I think it's fascinating what people do, what they say and how they treat others, and if I'm involved doubly so, and confusing it for "caring about what these people actually think" instead of "marveling that this what these people actually think."

Because last night I was told I was "too aggressive" and "not friendly enough," while simultaneously being told I "cared too much about other people's opinions", which, come on mother fucker, that math just doesn't add up.

So basically, I guess people find it boring when I talk about drama, and so decide to accuse me of it being a personal failing.