This phrase really creates a confusing climate for these kids. Their parents and teachers are telling them "just be yourself," while their peers are telling them what they should and shouldn't do. It's really a constant struggle of them trying to be themselves while their peers reject whatever version they think is the right one.

This article hit the nail on the head for me. randomuser is right in saying that parents need to be more honest with their children. Constantly lying to children is seen as the humane thing to do here in America, but is really detrimental to them in the end. This reminds me of the debate over whether you should let your children win when playing games with them. Many successful athletes discuss in interviews how their parents never let them win while playing sports; they had to earn it. Whether that's something any of you could see yourself doing or not, it's important to consider! I'm not sure how many illusions I want my kids to have about the world, or when I would want those illusions to end. It's tricky.