It doesn't make sense to me to use that label - because if it doesn't change often, you may just use the gender you feel like you are right now.

I'll accept your argument for pan, though (even though it still doesn't make sense because people don't inherently look trans or intersex - the only two visible genders are male and female). And if "not wanting sex at all" is not "having no libido", then what DO you define as libido?

And for your point about being a society - yes, I find that there is something deeply wrong about building a whole society about some form or other of mental illness. Most cultures form because of opportunity (America didn't start because they didn't identify with English culture, at least not a major part - they did it because they were sitting on massive wealth that was being collected by rich snotty bastards at the other side of a whole ocean - THEN culture developed as a way to differentiate themselves). And Americans don't claim to be a whole species altogether.

And of course I wish for them to be part of a general society - and I'm sorry if I came across as dehumanizing them, but your paragraph is my exact point - I AM treating them as human fellows, and all I want is for them to get their issues sorted. But it's sort of hard when them themselves don't see/consider themselves as human.