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veen  ·  2637 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why driverless cars will be the next battlefield in the culture war

    My discussion style? It's nothing like that.

That's fine 'n'all and it's duly noted. All I want to say is that when you want to achieve this:

    what I'm actually doing is saying "please, continue" but just responding "please continue" is A) rude and B) doesn't give you much to go on. Where if I throw anything that I think is remotely relevent out there, you can be all "I'm glad you brought that up cause check the magic shit I'm about to tell you now!"

that there is a better way that doesn't raise anyone's ruffles. If you say 'well I disagree because X', then my only response can be to rebut your X or agree with your X. It puts me or goob in a defensive position: we'll put our shields up and rebut. My point is: it doesn't leave a lot of room to talk about anything else.

But if instead you were to ask questions or to build upon what goobster or kleinbl00 or I write in our wall'o'texts, the conversation can go all different places! You can get a lot more and different responses if you go "hey, what do you mean by this part?", "how does X and Y relate?", "oh! that reminds me of the time I...", etc., etc. Think of it this way: "please continue!" is never rude if it's formulated as a question. Does that make sense? :)