None of your examples has to do with "affirming" or agreeing with a sexual choice (it has never been conclusively proven at all by any study) that being gay is due to unavoidable genetics. So it is due to many situations and factors. However, being a bus driver has nothing to do with agreeing with or saying to someone whose sexual practices you don't agree with on moral grounds. Neither does the surgeon (I don't know any surgeon, Christian, Muslin, Jewish, or otherwise that would not work on a gay person - that is not a good correlative comparison) example. Yes, our laws prohibit polygamy, but don't outlaw marriage. So, if secular law should over-ride spiritual laws (which are the foundation of all Western law in many countries is based on - and that is fact and not fiction), then we should just outlaw religion or any religious expression at all because it might offend some non -believer. Of course, a non-believers views are hardly ever questioned in our secular press or otherwise if they offend a Judeo-Christian or Muslim believer (talk about biased). Our laws were never based on secular basis only, and it was mainly the Chrisitan religion which allowed the laws to be written to respect all others including atheism (which in itself could be classified a self-worship religion). I don't know of any Judeo-Christian believer who treats women like they do in other parts of the world like stoning them if they talk to a man or get raped like you point out. Idon't agree with Sharia law either.

So, affimation is quite different from "accommodation" in the public sector, so let's not confuse the two.

You might want to read the writings of Lord Blackstone, and of Joseph Storey or John Jay for clarification. Yes, secular (in that sense) laws, based on Judeo-Christian heritage and Mosaic law, is what we are structured by, but it does not dis-include religious expression or outlaw religious beliefs, violation of conscience, the shutting out of religious expression in the public sector, or any such thing. When secular law over-rides all religious belief, conscience, and expression, we will cease to exist as "America" and will become another nation altogether.