kleinbl00, b_b, Foveaux, lil, Quatrarius, update:

We tried talking a couple nights ago but it wasn't really the right time and environment to have a constructive conversation. It was still very respectful and caring towards each other, but otherwise wasn't working well. We tried again yesterday afternoon after she got out of work, and had a wonderful hour, hour and a half of talking. The feedback from y'all and via text message really helped me clarify my thoughts and emotions in this situation, and her and I have walked away from yesterday's conversation with a "let's check-in on this topic as it comes up, but yes, let's keep doing what we're doing in a safe, thoughtful, and fun way that can build on what we're starting with each other". So, we'll see? But I think being more assertive in stating my wants/needs while also clarifying my desire to respect and maintain her freedom and autonomy went a long way. The latter really changed the entire tone of the conversation and I think changed her narrative on this topic. Feeling positive, but we're not 100% through this.