hehe :) actually on further thoughtful reflection maybe we can use this for a teaching moment. I read Emily Post as a child. (I have always had a hard time understanding the customs and habits of my fellowman and etiquette books gave me guidelines to pretend to be normal) Well anyway Ms Post said something that has stuck with me to this day (I still can't remember which side the salad fork goes) She said when catching someone in a breach of etiquette is impolite to point it out. I think her example was someone eating chicken with their fingers. Her suggestion to a gracious hostess was not to call them out or even to take them aside and correct them but instead to eat the chicken with their own fingers as not embarrass them. Simply put it is ruder to point out the rudeness in others than to accidentally make a faux pas