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coffeesp00ns  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What you wish you had known @ 18.

You're transgender, kid. talk to someone about it.





user-inactivated  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Are you MtF?

coffeesp00ns  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·  

oui, c'est ça. after six years of questioning, i finally came out to myself, then my folks and close friends over the past 6-7 months.

kleinbl00  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·  

There was a girl who I used to run interference for on /r/favors all the time. Didn't hear from her for a while. Then I got a message on LinkedIn from someone I never heard of. I wrote him back saying "uhm, don't take this the wrong way, but how do I know you?" He wrote back with the equivalent of "I know my name is Jim now but you used to know me as Sue."

He's so much happier. I hope the same is true of you.

coffeesp00ns  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks. I am much, much happier, and much more chill.

user-inactivated  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·  

How did they take it? One of my friends (his sex is female) is currently coming out as a male. It honestly didn't surprise me. Was anyone you came out to genuinely surprised? I'm very aware of the self-doubt one goes through while coming to terms with being transgender; I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

coffeesp00ns  ·  3834 days ago  ·  link  ·  

everyone has taken it well. a fair few people have been surprised (I'm not the standard media-portrayal waiflike and/or flamboyant transwoman), but totally okay with it and were then less surprised when they thought back on "signs". I have a tendency towards flying under the radar, though I will be going through a social transition at school (my Orchestral director and the head of my master's program knows and is supportive).