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user-inactivated  ·  3822 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lil's Book of Questions: What's the Difference Between Secrecy and Privacy?

    "I feel understood, I feel this person cares about me and not just themselves."

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I think that's one of the keys, and is very relatable to some of the shit I've been dealing with lately. I think it's difficult to obtain that sort of relationship with someone, but I also think that's what makes working towards trustworthiness worth it.

If you can trust someone enough that you know that they care about you as well as themselves, you've reached a point where you can open to that person without fear of repercussions.

Noway, I think you're mixing up the fact that because trust is part of healthy relationship, it should be easy to do so. That's not the case at all. It's hard to trust someone, especially if someone has burned you because of that lack of trust before. But if relationships with anyone were easy, we probably wouldn't even be having this discussion, haha.