http://i.imgur.com/XKLnB8p.gif I think that's one of the keys, and is very relatable to some of the shit I've been dealing with lately. I think it's difficult to obtain that sort of relationship with someone, but I also think that's what makes working towards trustworthiness worth it. If you can trust someone enough that you know that they care about you as well as themselves, you've reached a point where you can open to that person without fear of repercussions. Noway, I think you're mixing up the fact that because trust is part of healthy relationship, it should be easy to do so. That's not the case at all. It's hard to trust someone, especially if someone has burned you because of that lack of trust before. But if relationships with anyone were easy, we probably wouldn't even be having this discussion, haha."I feel understood, I feel this person cares about me and not just themselves."
Yup. More than mixing it up, I think I was just hoping it does. I'm just wondering, if relationships are so hard, is there something easier? Friends with benefits or something like that can be just as stressful depending on the partner. Oh people, such strange creatures we are.Noway, I think you're mixing up the fact that because trust is part of healthy relationship, it should be easy to do so.
There is something easier, and that's being alone. That's the perspective I used to take. But, on the flip side of healthy relationships being hard but worth it, being alone is easy but shitty. Trust me, as the high-school kid that had too much cynicism and sarcasm and assholishness than anyone should or could handle. Your perspective will probably change when you find someone worth trusting, in the same way people who say "I don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend" - because of constant rejection/an inability to reach out and ask someone out - find someone worth being in a relationship with.