Most people know what it is to be thoughtful, at least that is my take on it. The problem is that most places don't expect "thoughtfulness" of us. Even much of higher learning these days is dominated by a "finish line" mentality that doesn't promote thoughtfulness or genuine accomplishment as much as it promotes task oriented behaviors and accreditation. Can thoughtfulness be taught
Sure it can, but most adults have already learned this lesson. Case in point, way back, several reddit migrations ago, we had a number of users come in on a "circle-jerk" wave. Most of them hightailed it out of here, but I noticed that some of them stayed. The ones that stayed, started off acting like jackasses, but once they realized that Hubski (the community) asked more of them, they rose to the occasion. The most thoughtful people can be assclowns, if they're in an environment that begs for assclownery, and vice versa.