To be fair, if one person is going to be supplying all of the monetary gain and supporting the family in that regard, is it not only fair that the other support the family in the opposite regard? I'm not saying men and women can't both work and be homemakers at the same time and I don't claim to know his exact story aside from what was told. We don't really knew if she wanted to work a job and bring home some bacon or if she wanted to stay at home. If she doesn't want to work a job and wants to stay at home I believe that IS her job and at that point why should he get up and do it? At that point it is her job as he is providing everything else but the home making part of life. This would be the same if the man wanted to stay home and the woman was the primary provider as well.

Again to reiterate; I do not believe this to be the only model for a household. Do not take it as bigotry as the same should be held true whether a man is the primary provider or the female.

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Different people are looking for different things in their relationship. If you are looking to be the sole provider and want a stay at home spouse to raise the kids that is something that should be discussed between you before you have kids/getmarried or w/e you are into.