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Cedar  ·  3387 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Boyfriend Trouble...Do I have a lying problem?

Fuck that. There is absolutely no trust on his part, she isn't lying when she says she'll be 20 minutes, that's her genuine expectation, her partner needs to accept that sometimes shit happens. My partner buys things all the time without telling me; I don't feel compelled to dig through her finances because I can trust that she will not be reckless with her money and if there is a large purchase I can trust that she would tell me. If she forgets to tell me, I am not going to get angry with her and start calling her a liar.

_refugee_ is absolutely right, he's controlling xofaith, but worse he's manipulated her to the point that she even believes she's some pathological liar and not that he is the problem. Put it this way, Faith said in the very first paragraph that she is "terrified" and "operating out of fear", those are words you should never need to describe a relationship, once it reaches that point you should do everything you can to get yourself away and safe.