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OftenBen  ·  3336 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 30, 2015

I'm keeping things intentionally vague but, I'm most successful when I get out of my own damn way. If it's not already painfully obvious I have a bad habit (That I'm slowly de-conditioning) of over thinking every possible permutation and variation of events standing between me and some sort of goal, which is useful in small doses, but paralytic in volume.

BUT

Made a plan on Monday for Tuesday evening. Managed to stay out of my head (Mostly) and out of my own way and had a really good time with a new friend. Stayed up too late, drank a bit too much, went in to work with a bit of a hangover, and it was worth it. I'm trying to really internalize the feeling of 'Things went okay and I didn't have to drown myself in hypotheticals for that to happen.' Which is harder than it sounds.

Vaguely related, have an appointment with my counselor tonight. I think he'll be happy to hear of my growing ability to stay out of my own way. I still struggle with perspective a lot, but I suspect that's something that comes with age and experience, more than as a result of direct effort.