I'm keeping things intentionally vague but, I'm most successful when I get out of my own damn way. If it's not already painfully obvious I have a bad habit (That I'm slowly de-conditioning) of over thinking every possible permutation and variation of events standing between me and some sort of goal, which is useful in small doses, but paralytic in volume. BUT Made a plan on Monday for Tuesday evening. Managed to stay out of my head (Mostly) and out of my own way and had a really good time with a new friend. Stayed up too late, drank a bit too much, went in to work with a bit of a hangover, and it was worth it. I'm trying to really internalize the feeling of 'Things went okay and I didn't have to drown myself in hypotheticals for that to happen.' Which is harder than it sounds. Vaguely related, have an appointment with my counselor tonight. I think he'll be happy to hear of my growing ability to stay out of my own way. I still struggle with perspective a lot, but I suspect that's something that comes with age and experience, more than as a result of direct effort.
Over the years I've given myself three rules to follow. Number 2 is "stop thinking about it and just do it." My logic is if I've been thinking about it this long and haven't come up with a reason not to, the risk is reasonably low, and I just need to go for it. Nice work overcoming yourself to have a good time.
The first is "don't get hurt." It started when I started running again, taking the time to slow down and practice good form and worry less about how fast I was running. That made a big difference, and my early years of joint pain are gone. It's become even more important as I venture into backcountry hiking. It reminds me to take the time to do it right. And when done right, I can do the things I dream of. Number three is a bit more lighthearted: "always go see Broken Social Scene in Toronto." I know you aren't as into live music, but I've seen BSS in Toronto four times, and all four were superb. It's a great time and a good city, and the band always nails the hometown shows. If you're ever looking for an excuse to travel there, seeing an increasingly rare BSS show there is a good reason.