I realized at one point that most of the anxiety comes from not having a goal. I know myself well enough to say that I'll turn mountains over if I find a goal worthwhile. With that in mind, I motivate myself with things like "It's good for me" and "I want this". I have to remind it to myself because it's not the default mode of mine to jump to what's best for me: mine is that of the least resistance; I have to remember - and be reminded at times - that best things cost effort and time, and it's the best things that I want.

Maybe it has something to do with "having life figured out". I've heard it enough to know that it isn't a localized sentiment, but what is it is still beyond me. And yet, it seems to me that knowing one's place in life makes one so much more powerful - even though the reality is that we're already as powerful as we get, we just don't realize it. The power that we feel is a feeling, not a state. Imbued with that feeling on several occasions, I remember doing great stuff and feeling great overall.

Maybe figuring out life is about finding a place for yourself, knowing where you belong, what you want and discarding the rest.