Yes, I read the whole thing. While I think the tone was meant to be constructive, I don't fundamentally agree with the statement that "the best revenge is to forgive, live well and succeed." If you think of it as revenge; that is, if you think to yourself, "I'm doing great and that poor bastard is floundering," then you haven't really forgiven or moved on. But of course, even that line of thinking is far better than actually physically harming another person or their property.
Sounds like an askhubski question: "what is the best revenge?" #philosphy or maybe #thehumancondition
In response to that article, lil, though, I got to here: (emphasis mine) and I'm already like, "Woah, woah, woah." Author, slow down. Quit your sexual biases. Does anyone ever really 'deserve' revenge?I'm not going to get into the argument on whether men are just usually doing the wrong and deserving the revenge or women are just more emotional and can't control themselves
He's not claiming that anyone deserves revenge or women are emotional - he's throwing that out there as something he's not going to discuss. However, I did not read the article that carefully so it might well be full of controversial biased comments. I probably shouldn't post things that I skim -- however: I think poetry or creative works of any sort ARE a good way of expressing feelings without directly involving the object of the anger. I once wrote a long poem about the swordfish guy whose apartment I had fled. It felt really good to write and I eventually mailed it to him, weeks later. He called saying, "That poem doesn't make me look very good." It was almost an apology. If you get at least one decent poem about a crappy encounter, that's pretty good and way better than zero. Why? Because each poem moves us along to the next awareness.
It just seems biased, like "That's a given that I'm just not going to talk about," you know? I didn't mind the article, I read the whole thing. I agree. Better constructive than destructive, right? Sometimes it takes a different angle for people to see things more correctly, like your poem instead of a one-on-one conversation, I guess.