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Additionally, I know this may be odd to say, but sometimes having someone within the family isn't the best option. Of course when discussing your parents it may be useful, but there's no guarantee the advice you'd get from an older brother would be good or unclouded by bias, in your reception or his deliverance. I have a younger sister only, and we don't talk at all. There's no substance to our relationship other than we were both raised in the same hell, and really only in theory. We both experienced and processed the abuse we received very differently. I cam through it mostly for the better, but I fear she did not. She's not a very good person now, or good at being a person. Anything either of us said to each other would be meaningless; advice wouldn't be heeded and any discussion of what things we have in common are so radically different that it wouldn't cause anything but friction.

What I'm saying is if you want to have an older brother, you should definitely have it someone you choose, insofar as 'older brother' equates to 'trusted confidante'. That's something everyone should have. You should definitely find friends that fall into that category, and if that's not possible, at least some counselor (though I never trusted professionals, more as a holdover of not trusting adults when I was young.) Besides, the old phrase (oft debated if actually new) rings true:

The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.