Wow, this question is a lot harder to answer than I thought it would be. Truthfully, I really don't know. I have always been one to feel like I had everything figured out. I used to know where I wanted to go to college, what I wanted to major in, what career path I wanted to take - it would occasionally change, but I always had /something/. About 6-8 months ago something changed though. I stopped listening as much to what other people told me they thought I should do. I started to realize that the things I thought I wanted all along aren't really what /I want/, but rather, what I thought /I should/ do. So since then I've been stuck having no real direction in life other than wanting to graduate high school. But the more I think about it, the more I'm okay with that. I think that not having such specific goals allows me to be more open to trying out new things, and maybe eventually I'll find something that I truly love and want to pursue. So to answer the question, what I want to be when I grow up is someone who has had many different experiences, someone who doesn't regret the things I did, and someone who never let an opportunity slip away.
University undergraduate advisors offices are FULL of people who want to change their major, then change it again, because someone told them that they HAD to be a something or other. On the other hand, nowaypablo and you in your last paragraph make good points. It's better to do as much as you can and learn as much as you can with passion and intensity then to do nothing. I hope you are interested in a lot of things. The universe is full of awesomeness.I stopped listening as much to what other people told me they thought I should do. I started to realize that the things I thought I wanted all along aren't really what /I want/, but rather, what I thought /I should/ do.
Bonjour: know this. Therapists offices are FULL of people in their 30s, 40s, and 50 etc who did what other people told them they should do.
Thanks for the response! I know someone who is in that exact predicament. They are mid-forties and just now realizing that their career isn't really what they wanted in life and it hasn't been rewarding them the way that they feel it should. So now they are searching for something that will, and it's quite a struggle. I don't want to end up in this situation. I hope that whatever it is I decide on pursuing will make me happy and let me enjoy life without holding me back. That being said, I also think it's important to know that people's wants/needs do change. So whatever fulfilled you 20 years ago, may not be the same as what you need to fulfill you now. I just want to keep an open mind and never stop learning about things that interest me.
A good point, and one I was going to make if you didn't Your good friend probably felt OK in his job for a long time before he got to the point where it no longer was enough for him. (One hopes.)That being said, I also think it's important to know that people's wants/needs do change. So whatever fulfilled you 20 years ago, may not be the same as what you need to fulfill you now.
You and i are in th same fight then. If i can offer any advice that has improved things for me, its to pursue all those different interests and niches fully. I mean, if something, substantial or not, catches my eye enough to make me dig deeper, i encourage myself to dig straight down to the goddamn bottom. IF i dont like it in the end, i know i understand it and am aware of it. And if i truly love it in the end, which hasnt quite yet happened to me, then i will dedicate myself to contributing to it in my own way. This is a principle of life i hope to uphold in the future. Good luck bro, we'll be out of here soon:D