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OftenBen  ·  4019 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, what're you gonna be when you grow up?

From that i'm going to assume you're a woman between the ages of 19 and 23?





_refugee_  ·  4019 days ago  ·  link  ·  

And wrong you are :)

nowaypablo  ·  4018 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Holy shit i love what just happened. OftenBen i think your pong just ping'd.

_refugee_  ·  4017 days ago  ·  link  ·  

In my opinion the beginning stages of dating should be both easy and fun. If it is hard right off the bat, it's because something isn't working. Eventually you will get to hard points but they shouldn't be in the first few weeks.

nowaypablo  ·  4016 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I agree, but a lot of people don't realize that eventually you have to work with (not against!) your partner to get to the good stuff that comes with a relationship on a longer timeline. It's like everyone enjoys the honeymoon phase then tries to turn the plane around when its time to fly back from Hawaii.

_refugee_  ·  4015 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh, it's true, and I can't say I'm not guilty. But your partner has to be worth the bad stuff, too, and sometimes you realize they aren't.

nowaypablo  ·  4015 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I may or may not be subject to this at the moment :( trying to show her I'm in it for the long haul too but she's not buying it.

_refugee_  ·  4014 days ago  ·  link  ·  

A tough spot to be in. Best of luck.