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comment by istara
istara  ·  3967 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to Land Your Kid in Therapy - Lori Gottlieb - The Atlantic

Overparenting is one thing. You can certainly just "let be" a lot more.

But the other problem is simply first-world-woes: we have it so fucking easy that we never really get the light and shade that people living closer to the ground yet. We don't have to fight for our education, our freedom, our rights. We don't live in war torn countries. We don't have high childhood disease/mortality. We don't feel happy because we never feel justifiably miserable or terrified from a valid external cause.

Instead we get "stressed" about our desk jobs and feel "unfulfilled" and "just not happy" like the idiot in the article. That therapist should be telling her to get off the fucking couch, go and volunteer among people who are actually disadvantaged, or some sort of constructive project that builds something, or even just read a damn good book.

Throughout that entire article what I never once see is any suggesting of exposing children to anything outside their own sphere.

One thing that has always stuck in my memory is how Princess Diana took her young sons to visit AIDS patients. I don't know how much impact that has had on their lives, their compassion, their sense of gratitude for their own comfortable lot in life. But I suspect it has done something.