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comment by zaylea
zaylea  ·  3921 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How can I be a better single guy?

To be fair, dating for everyone is a numbers game. Just because an attractive woman has men swarming around her it doesn't mean she actually wants to be with 98% of those guys.

There's a really great ted talk relating to that:





OftenBen  ·  3921 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Different numbers though.

Men, number of rejections vs number of 'successes'

Women, number of times approached vs number deemed acceptable.

zaylea  ·  3921 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's still the issue of wading through a crowd of people trying to find someone you're compatible with. Just because women have a lot of men approaching them, it doesn't mean a guy they're compatible with will ever actually approach them. Particularly if the woman isn't projecting herself in a way that would attract the men she wants, or if she's not even bothering to approach men herself.