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comment by _refugee_
_refugee_  ·  3866 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, What Are Some Of Your Personal (Dating) Relationship Guidelines/Rules?

    If you can't make your words match your actions, you are not worth a damn.

Eh. Sometimes there is an intellectual divide. Six months ago I jumped into a relationship and didn't realize how totally not ready or interested in it I was until I realized that I went out and massively flirted with practically every guy that weekend. I often have to observe my own behavior to know how I'm feeling. Maybe I'm not very in touch emotionally?

It can go the other way too: I realize I'm interested in someone when I observe myself texting them, stopping by to say "hi," stuff that could be written off as casual but isn't.

I may say something is fine in theory but in practice I realize it's not. I'm not perfectly self aware. I wouldn't expect most people to be.