These are good, insom. #2 is something I'm realizing I need. Or at least, person must be driven, must actually attempt to achieve things. I am thinking it would be fun if I could try and date a (good) poet. But if he were as driven as I am, it could become a competitive disaster. On the other hand I'd be able to go on and on about poetry with someone who really got it. 8's all great. I try to convert people to Hubski all the time and it never takes. But I'd rather keep those I'm dating off of it so I can talk about them when I want!
Amen. I still hold back a bit about what I say because I think my ex still comes on occasionally. Probably to see what I'm up to. I just found out the guy I met a few days ago doesn't have a facebook. Never has. I told him that was unacceptable. When he asked why, I said "because I have no idea who you are and what you do and what you've done and what your ex looks like and who your friends with or anything! You could be a serial killer or married or who knows what." He laughed at me and told me he'd tell me anything I wanted to know. I told him that that provided less insight because everything would be skewed through his perspective - it wouldn't be nearly as objective. He found this to be the most hilarious thing ever and told me my honesty was refreshing. I told him to go back 8 years and make a facebook so I can stalk him. I wonder how people ever dated before the internet. I guess that's how people were able to keep two wives and shit. Still mind-boggling. I must've found the one guy under 30 who has never had a facebook.But I'd rather keep those I'm dating off of it so I can talk about them when I want!
I have so many questions!! Okay. So. How did you never create a facebook? I completely understand people who have deleted their facebook or rarely post anything. I don't understand how you could never have made a facebook when it was all the rage. Do you ever find yourself missing out on things? Did you ever find yourself missing parties / events when Facebook was the defacto mode of event invitations? Have you dated someone with a facebook and did she find it weird that you didn't have one? How do you get access to photos of yourself taken at parties or by friends?!
I'm obstinate, and most of the people I was hanging around with back then were too. None of us had Facebook accounts when it was all the rage because it was all the rage. Or at least, anyone who didn't wouldn't have admitted it to the rest of us. People I'd known in high school had Facebook accounts, but the ones I wanted to keep in touch with I kept in touch with via im/email. By the time anyone I might have listened to was pressuring me to make one it wasn't just for university students anymore and there were already stories about employers Facebook-stalking employees, so I was more firmly opposed. Probably, but nothing comes to mind so probably not anything I really regretted missing. I have dated people with Facebook accounts. I've never owned a cellphone either, so by the time Facebook comes up anyone who'll think I'm weird for not having one already thinks I'm weird. I don't like having my picture taken. There are probably a few pictures of me out there, but I'm not interested in seeing them.How did you never create a facebook? I completely understand people who have deleted their facebook or rarely post anything. I don't understand how you could never have made a facebook when it was all the rage.
Do you ever find yourself missing out on things? Did you ever find yourself missing parties / events when Facebook was the defacto mode of event invitations?
Have you dated someone with a facebook and did she find it weird that you didn't have one?
How do you get access to photos of yourself taken at parties or by friends?!
Hey, just because he doesn't have a facebook doesn't mean he's not on the internet. I suggest some wine and an evening of Googling. Best case scenario, you might find fun stuff like news articles, or even better articles from college papers and stuff. I was trying to locate an example because I was quoted in a local newspaper around the age of 16 oh so many years ago, but I guess they've taken it down.
Already done that. I know his middle name and that he has two brothers and the location of the house he grew up in. That's it though. He has zero online presence. One good piece of news is he's never been arrested and no mugshots online. +1