I avoided all that wondering by just having the policy not to phone guys - phone being the equivalent to texting back in the earlier technology. Sure phoning is different from texting, but who needs the wondering. I just said, early on, I don't phone men, meaning guys that I was seeing casually or had just met or something might have sparked at some point. It totally worked for me. I almost wish I was dating again. -- oh god no. I suspect people get married so they don't have to date any more. just kidding. really.I cut back on texts when I'm sending multiples with no reply or when it seems I'm being ignored on multiple occasions...or, yeah, when I feel like I'm hitting them up first all the time. Can't I expect some effort from a guy?
Yes, and you will get the effort from a guy when you say to them, "oh, by the way, I don't randomly text. I'll text to confirm a meetup, that's all. You want effort? Stop doing all the work in the relationship.