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user-inactivated  ·  3857 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'm not walking at my High School graduation.

If you want to negatively spin everything I said, then I guess that's somewhat accurate. But only somewhat. If your parents prioritize seeing you walk across a stage for fifteen seconds after sitting still for four hours (oh and it costs a bunch of money), then they're not the sort of people you want to be pleasing at the expense of your own happiness.

And your advice seems to boil down to: "it's a milestone." Hmm.





b_b  ·  3857 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Forget the specifics of what it is you're doing. It's irrelevant and immaterial to the broader point that if you can do something minimal to make people you care about happy, then why not do it? Anything else is vanity and egomania.

Not at all sure how you're reading that I said "it's a milestone." I never gave a fuck about school in the slightest sense, and at no time do I mention anything of the sort. You're projecting, and filling in gaps that aren't there.

user-inactivated  ·  3857 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh, not you specifically. Some other commenters said exactly that and I figured you might be making their argument.

    Forget the specifics of what it is you're doing. It's irrelevant and immaterial to the broader point that if you can do something minimal to make people you care about happy, then why not do it? Anything else is vanity and egomania.

Because alternatives.

You can make them happy at little cost to yourself. Well and good. OR you can skip the fucking thing, go out and have a long goodbye dinner with your parents/family where you can actually INTERACT with them and TALK to them and SEE them -- maybe that'll make them happy? Maybe -- gasp -- it'll make everyone happy, yourself included? Maybe it'll even end up being cheaper, although that's optional.

I mean, damn. Lots of things make parents happy. Pick one that makes you happy too. If for some asinine reason they beg you to walk, then fuck it, walk. But at least sit 'em down and explain the more interesting alternatives.