I cheated on the girl with whom I had my second major relationship (take major with a grain of salt, i'm 16-- still, it was a very 'serious' thing for me). I might have mentioned her a long time ago here on Hubski, but there isn't really any caliber of oratory skill to describe how important she was to me, so it doesn't matter.

Her and I were perfect and everything was perfect around her and she was perfect to me on her own-- I was not. And being seen with her with the entire population of Yerevan, Armenia offering all their worldly possessions to date her was pretty crippling for my self-confidence. This may seem ironic, but as I realized very quickly it was because I simply couldn't imagine that this diamond jewel of positivity, warmth, humanity and drive for happiness decided to stick with me and not the Grand Prince Bumblefuck of Luxembourg.

I cheated on her when she was 6,000 miles away. "Hooked up" with a small, perpetually bent-over turtle-person who had a nice ass that was apparently filled with the brain matter she never had. Did it once. I told my girl soon after (a day later I think, but it could've been a week) and she was confused, unhappy, immediately tried to justify it with a million bullshit reasonings about our distance and decided to forgive me. Even though I had that second chance and she still loved me I didn't want to be trusted by her. I felt like shit, like pure dirt more than I ever have, and that was already the biggest issue in our relationship. Everything collapsed naturally, very quickly afterwards.

clandestino, I'm young and ignorant and I don't have much consolation to give you let alone advice. That said, I wish you the best of luck in learning whatever lessons you can from it and moving on.

Everyone else: Please. PLEASE. Don't cheat on your SO. It doesn't matter if you will never get caught, I wouldn't have. Just remember everything that you will lose in the person you promised yourself to already.