i don't totally understand. Are you just looking for an alternative player to iTunes? I use MusicBee right now and i'm happy with it. i don't have podcasts or audiobooks so i can't speak to MusicBee's effectiveness in that regard but i know they're both supported. I don't know that it'd let you load files to your phone without physically connecting it, though.
Something that will let me organize/view my music, build playlists easily exportable to android (Doing it on my phone sucks), and I don't care so much about the physical part except that I know it should be possible without doing so, this is 2014, we should be past that shit by now.
haha agreed. And i believe at least iphones have a sync feature with itunes that accomplishes that. Check out MusicBee, it might be what you're looking for. Super customizable, great device compatibility, it might seem a little weird coming from iTunes but its easy to get used to. The biggest selling point for me was that i could put my music on my friends' devices because you don't have to deal with iTunes' profile-specific device bs. I don't have an android so i can't tell you for sure how playlist exporting works. I don't see why it'd act any differently, though. Make it in the program and then drag+drop like itunes.