I suppose if loneliness was the extent of your problems, then a relationship might be the fix. But, speaking for myself (with the advantage of hindsight), the healthiest relationship that I ever had (the one I have now) came at a time in my life when I was without a doubt content not to be in one. The short version is that at one low point, I resolved to work upon myself and to become the type of person that I might admire. It wasn't a straight path, and there were detours and setbacks, however after a few years, I had moved to a place that I think might have surprised my younger self. Once there, I found that what interested me about a relationship changed, and that it had less to do with fulfillment. My real interest was sharing life and what I was doing and I wasn't worried that the opportunity wouldn't arise. The The has a great pertinent lyric in their song Giant: I think you can swap 'know' for any number of words.How could anyone know me
When I don't even know myself?
I think you said it best This makes a lot of sense, thanks for the perspective. Also that song is so crazy, once I braced myself for like 10 seconds I was hooked for the whole ride.But, speaking for myself (with the advantage of hindsight), the healthiest relationship that I ever had (the one I have now) came at a time in my life when I was without a doubt content not to be in one