I'm going to take a tangential tactic and recommend you view these kinds of arguments through the kind of lens displayed by the Overview Effect. Staying quiet doesn't make you weak, it means you're not willing to engage in the petty. It seems you have already distanced yourself somewhat from arguments like these, but in the broader "pale blue dot" perspective hatemongering and stirring up "debate" is really counterproductive. After explaining to your friends your reasoning for stopping your debate habits, invite them to do the same. Hopefully they just don't understand why you stopped, and they'll accept an honest reason. Remember, whether in argumentation or elsewhere, just because you can destroy someone doesn't mean you should.
Oh man, I'm sorry! I wrote a thorough reply to this and I guess I didn't send it or it didn't go through? Aw man. Okay well I sorta gotta hurry my time on Hubski now so I'll make this brief but I'm not taking your advice for granted: 1) I kinda-sorta heard of the Overview Effect a long time ago and now that you remind me it's got me thinking a lot, I will be sure to tag you when I make a separate post about it probably in #philosophy. I've got some ideas I want to put in writing and I'll put that on the list. I don't want to rant about it now anyway.
2) Anyway I think we're on the same page for sure about what you're saying.Remember, whether in argumentation or elsewhere, just because you can destroy someone doesn't mean you should.
This idea helped me break down my place in other discussions on this thread. I have a feeling that there's a sad reality wherein the more someone loses battles and hurts, the more they'll be tempted to destroy someone even though they shouldn't, for example if it's unfair. They're damaged from people who did the same to them. When everyone runs out of things to be angry at, it's like a coping mechanism to instigate Hatred to return to that familiar feeling. Heroine.