I was raised to believe that men should have a stoic, silent character. That listening is more important that speaking. That when you talk, have something to say that adds to the conversation, moves a talk forward or opens a mind to a new way of looking at things. I'm not saying I'm good at these ideals although I try. Still, I love this outlook at life and it works well for my personality. I was on Facebook a week, then poisoned my metadata and deleted it. I only do social media that improves my outlook on how the world works. As I got out of my teens I came to the realization that life is far, far too short to deal with useless bullshit. People who come off as militant turn me off nearly instantly. Persons full of hate and anger have no place in my life. And if someone thinks that I am a pussy for not being loud and angry, that is on them. Their opinion of how I choose to carry myself is not my problem.
I wasn't "raised" to believe this so to speak, but I know exactly the character you are talking about. I've seen it rarely in people in real life (plenty in movies) but you're right that it adds power to a man's air and presence. Hm, I gotta say I like your way of thinking, it reminds me a lot of Armenia (where I'm from) where the teen drama doesn't even exist, there's no such thing as these kind of superficialities. It's not like they live in huts and don't access Facebook, but their lives and their places in society are much more.. calm. I truly want to be the kind of man you describe.I was raised to believe that men should have a stoic, silent character. That listening is more important that speaking. That when you talk, have something to say that adds to the conversation, moves a talk forward or opens a mind to a new way of looking at things. I'm not saying I'm good at these ideals although I try. Still, I love this outlook at life and it works well for my personality.
It took me a while, and I still get way overly excited about new things that really dig into me, but for the most part I'm living up to my idea. It is amazing what you learn about people when you allow yourself to be quiet and let others talk.