Honestly, my grandma was forced to be a nazi driver. She escaped around 1939, but only she knows of the atrocities that were committed in her name, at least in her transport. I have taken two holocaust courses now, and I'm so sorry about your family. What I'm curious about is your position on what is called the "banality of evil?" Do you think it really exists or do you think people deserve individual judgement on these matters. My grandma is one of the strongest and most caring people in my life. She left early but she may have driven hundreds of people to their deaths. But she got out of there as soon as possible for her. Do you think she should have been judged? I honestly don't even know if you are Jewish, if it's worth it I'll post an askhubski about it.
Many people in Europe were anti-Nazi. Many were pro-Nazi ideology, or went along with them for personal enrichment, out of fear, ignorance or other reasons. What we call evil, others call virtue. Hannah Arendt was probably right about Eichmann, or maybe Eichmann was lying. Some people are willing to follow orders, others, like your grandma got out as soon as she could. I'm grateful my grandparents left Warsaw when they did (1926). I am grateful that I don't live in a dictatorship or fascist regime.