I can relate to the first point and can agree with the second. My newest habit is making a list of positive things that have happened that day, both in moments that I have spent with the girl that I am currently talking to, and in general. I have a habit of finding negativity in everything and everyone, including the small stuff, and I feel like this curbs some of that. Minor things like: "She makes hilarious jokes" and "I felt productive at work today." Someone on Hubski said something along the lines of "it's easier to attack things than defend them, unless that thing is Fort Knox", and I think that applies here as well. It's easy to get caught up in the shitty stuff, and being conscious of the awesome stuff makes me feel awesome.I've been talking and thinking a lot about unrealistic expectations (in regards to new relationships, mostly)
Is it simply a matter of reflecting on ourselves, our situation, and our surroundings to be more aware the next time around and try to inspire change in ourselves?
Relatedly, it is far easier to disprove a unilateral statement than to prove it. A single negative vs. an "all cases" scenario. It would not surprise me if these things are related. A single weak point in an argument or fortress is all it needs to fall, given a patient and sly opponent.