I do not care about your feelings when you are making a decision that should not be decided by them in any sane scenario.

I am not asking for justification. I am stating that you should never be making decisions beforehand on a topic such as this.

Because the thing is, it's not black people's jobs to stop everything, sit down, and explain their daily experience to you just because you ask.

I didn't.

Because you are privileged enough that you have to ask instead of know.

And, yet again, the idea of privilege has been twisted and shifted from a concept that is about understanding and trying to put yourself in anothers shoes into one that is about silencing and putting people down.

The whole fucking point of the concept is that we should listen to and attempt to understand others experiences so we don't end up judging actions that don't make sense from our own contexts and biases. Not "You have it good, you should shut up and appreciate life".

maybe asking them to justify their feelings

I am not, and did not ask for a justification of any feelings.

If a guy I'd had a really tormented relationship with and I had just broken up, and someone then asked me to justify being upset with a seemingly unsympathetic view, yeah, I'd nope out of that situation as well,

But you would go out of your way to post a topic about your breakup on a website? One that "prides" itself on the idea of "thoughtful discussion" at that?

Either way, I wasn't asking for a justification of feelings. I was stating that feelings are not a justification to make up your mind on something before looking at the situation from a less biased point of view.