I'm not a dad, hell I'm not even a male but I know that being a father is far more than being the biological parent. It's about responsibility and love, tough love and wanting the best for your child. I did not grow up with my father but my grandfather, he was the most caring man I've ever known and loved us all so much, I even took to calling him dad along with my mother and aunt. I eventually found my real father, he'd moved on and created his own life and I have multiple other sisters. I do love him and I really don't blame him for anything, I just want to spend time with him but he wants to play video games all the time after work till he goes to bed. Sometimes I wake up from a dream where I hug him and I just miss him, he however is afraid I'll go after him for back child support and that I just want his money, because of this he never sends me anything during holidays or my birthday or spends anymore than necessary on me Money isn't important to children, beyond basic care. It's love and time.