You're welcome. I'm not often thanked for asking questions, I must admit. I'd like you to take part in a thought experiment now; I think you might find it peculiar. Imagine yourself in a less than pleasant place in life. You know yourself; what would the current you say to the different, less-than-happy you? How would you cheer this person up and get them up to current-you's speed?
Holy shit, man. This is amazing. The care, the respect and the conviction you put into your less fortunate self is inspiring and is awesome to listen to. Thank you for sharing this. May I ask what "Takina te hoe kia Rite" means? I wasn't able to google its meaning - only its translation, and it's vague.
Thank you for the kind words, I just hope I did the question justice, you've been making me think quite a bit! Ah it's a Maori motto, at my old College - it means "Wield the paddle together". You're never alone, we row the boat as one etc. Family is very important in my culture.