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caelum19  ·  3344 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: September 30, 2015

All I can go off is your word, but tone means a lot I think.

"Nah. I don't like to walk in the city." Sounds final, if someone I liked wanted to go do something I don't, i'd propose an alternative(To be honest, I would probably do something whether it sounds fun or not haha) "Uh, how about x? I hear they y very good z" etc.

    all the girls I've successfully asked out were already no strangers to me in whatever setting

Personally I'd find that more difficult. How do you go about wording that?

    I have no idea what's at fault here

I find it helpful just to imagine other people are you in social situations that I've not much experience with(I have a lot of experience not having experience). If you were in the current emotional situation she is(busy?, tired?, happy? etc.) and someone came up to you and said something like "Hey, would you like to go for a walk some time?" what conditions would you need to say yes? How attractive would she need to be? How well would it need to be worded?





user-inactivated  ·  3343 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    "Nah. I don't like to walk in the city." Sounds final

So I figured. It didn't sound like she was going for "Sod off, creep", but given that she proposed no alternative, I'm left to presume that she simply doesn't want to go out with me.

    How do you go about wording that?

Nothing different: "Would you like to take a walk with me?". They usually reply with "Okay!" or "Well, why not?".

    How well would it need to be worded?

Just how well might I? I don't believe going for anything more than the phrase I stated before would be necessary - other than, perhaps, finding out whether the girl is busy at the moment or for whenever I'd like to ask her for. From what I see, I've stated my request in a voice that implies interest; hopefully, my voice, though somewhat emotionless, does not imply something I don't want it to - for example, that I'm wanting something beyond the walk immediately or have no interest in the girl herself. Am I wrong to assume all that?