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WanderingEng  ·  3360 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do you guys have bucket lists?

Only sort of. I think there's a danger in planning out too much of one's life (nowaypablo), or at least there is for me. Things will change, and a bucket list can make it feel like I failed at something when really it's just a changing priority where that thing doesn't matter anymore.

I'd like to own a house and build a listening room (which in my mind is more like a grown up play room). Maybe make some improvements to my stereo, though in pretty happy with what I have. Funny thing about buying a house: what I want now is totally different than what I thought I wanted when I was 25.

Travel is great, but it has to have a purpose. I've been hiking in the Adirondacks, which is amazing. For now I'll take that over hiking in Tibet or wherever because I like the purpose of finishing the main peaks.

I'd maybe like to run a marathon some time. Or maybe just a half marathon.





Valet  ·  3360 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think making a bucket list is just an efficient way to write out your interests. It can give you something to work toward and look forward to, even when you are in a good place in life.

I soo want an entertainment (i.e. listening) room. Some sort of setup built around my computer, I guess. I haven't figured that one out yet.

How have you changed with what you want for a house? Do you now want something bigger? Smaller?

WanderingEng  ·  3359 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Smaller. When I was 25 I thought I wanted a three or four bedroom house with two and a half baths. It's what the new subdivisions around here are. Now ten years later I'm single with no kids and have been in a two bedroom condo for ten years. I find I go in the second bedroom every other month, and the only reason I go in the second bathroom is because there are cat litter boxes in there.

So what I think I want is a two bedroom place with an unfinished but dry basement where I could build out a modest fun room. Two bathrooms would be nice but not necessary. A two car garage would be nice, but I could get by with one. There are older but nice neighborhoods in my area closer to downtown with cafes and restaurants walking distance away. The combination of being smaller and not downtown makes them relatively affordable. The next time I move, if I stay in town, it's what I'll look for. A must-have will be some level of privacy, too. I don't want to have my wall six feet from my neighbor's.